Beware of Dandruff Because It Causes Hair Loss

Dandruff is something we all need to talk about at least once in life. It causes us to itch and scratch for random reasons. Turns our hair into a yellow or white mess. Takes pieces of our hair out if we scratch too much. Convince some people that we don’t wash our hair. A nightmare none the less, dandruff is something you need to get rid of. Luckily, there is hygiene technology that can make it go away. Using the best herbal shampoo for hair loss and dandruff is one way. You want to know more? Look below to see my other ways.

Use Medicated Shampoo

When you have dandruff, you can’t just rely on regular shampoo. No, that is not the way. You must rely on medicated shampoo. Try buying the best herbal shampoo for hair loss and dandruff if you can. Medicated shampoo washes your hair and scalp more thoroughly. Going in deep and removing all dirt from it. This is not going to happen over night. A person should use this type of shampoo for weeks. Keep using it until the dandruff in your head is all the way gone. Afterwards, the dandruff should be gone for good. Although, it can come back and when it does use the medicated shampoo again. There is no such thing as perfect but you can even the odds.

Avoid Irritating Hair Products

Certain hair products cause your skin to irritate. Hair dye, bleach, detergents, and artificial fragrances tend to make your hair more itchy. This makes the no scratching hair for too long rule hard to follow. You get? Not everyone notices the reactions from these products. It takes longer for some to feel them. Change your routine if you use these products to wash your hair. The dandruff will only get worse if you continue to use them.

Manage Your Day to Day Stress

Probably never heard this, reduce stress to make your dandruff go away. Stress is sneaky because it causes things you don’t realize easily. One thing it causes is a weaker immune system. You need your stress to be managed daily. Do things to make it less of a problem. Try not to think of certain things. Try not to smoke in early hours of the day to make you less paranoid about your surroundings. Avoid people who cause you more emotional pain then needed. In time, your immune system will go up and you will have less dandruff.

Stress is also a problem in deciding how to take care of your hair. When you are stressed, you tend to make the wrong decisions. Try to but things when your mind is clear and stress free. Then, you will be able to buy the products you really need and not feel guilty about it.

The question…. advice for a new dad

Today I visited friends who had just had a baby. I was given the customary hold. I also had The Lass to hold on to and keep calm. The Lad was being handled by my mum, so only having the 9 week old to worry about felt like I was on holiday.

The new dad, who was either fantastically Zen and serene or completely exhausted and emotionally drained turned to me and asked the question.

“So, any advice for a new dad?”

There they were. I had seen them coming around the corner. High beams. Right in my eyes. Holding me transfixed and gibbering. Given I blog about fatherhood this shouldn’t have had quite such a profound effect on me, but it did. Shooting off rambles into cyberspace is one thing, responding to a query from a new dad who’s eyes were thirsting for wisdom is entirely different.

So I sputtered out some inane crap. I thought I’d write a post about it so I was better equipped to deal with it next time because, as The Mamanator pointed out, I am the father of 2 children including a 2 year old. Therefore I hold the mantle of assumed expert in the dark ringed eyes of a new dad.

What I am posting is about stuff that surprised me. I had read some books, looked over hospital information and attended birth classes. I thought I had equipped myself with lots of information and was well forewarned and forearmed for fatherhood. And for the most part, I was. But I was not ready for everything…

So here’s the advice I would have given….

All children are different, when someone tells you some super tactic that is a sure fire way to get them to sleep, stop crying or whatever, take it with a grain of salt. I made that discovery for myself when we had number two. This limits the usefulness of any advice you will get.

Fatherhood doesn’t stop. Ever. I mean of course it doesn’t. That just makes sense, right? Yeah. The implications of that hit you later when you have been doing it for a while. Seriously it never stops. Even when you’re at work. Even if you’re away from your family for some reason. Even if you have a baby sitter or a grandparent looking after them. Even when they’re forty. It. Never. Stops.

You will at some stage bump your baby’s head into something.
The car door, a table, a railing, a wall or a door frame will sneak up on you. You will probably want to curl up into a ball, rock back and forth and cry. But you’ll be fine.

You will get something wrong and become totally averse to doing that task for a while. For me it was two things, fingernails and baths. I cut my boys thumb once when I was cutting his nails. Took me weeks to have another go at it, and baby nails grow back really really fast. First time I tried to bathe him when he was little I was so nervous I didn’t hold him right and he cried and cried. So I red carded myself in that activity for a while too….

Never take a nappy away before you have another nappy in place. NEVER EVER.

If your missus is feeding the baby, grab her a glass of water before she asks. Earns many brownie points. Also, breastfeeding women eat a great deal, be ready for it.

Finally, you may feel like little more than a couch or a bed for your baby in the first few weeks. Maybe you’ll be a swingy thing too. Don’t worry if its feels boring sometimes. But be the best damn couch you can be. It changes quickly anyway…

So that’s my little list. Use it new fathers! May it bring you solace in the times ahead.

Anything you would add to the list? What surprised you about the experience?

Keeping it cool

Toddlers. They’ve been compared to lots of things: drunken friends, old people, pets and plenty more. They have little to know control of their impulses, are generally clumsy, have a great deal of problem concentrating and don’t always hear/listen to you when you give them simple requests. It can make life frustrating. I thought I’d share some of the things I do to try and keep my cool with The Lad through the days I’m in charge of him. At least I can share some stories with the rest of you that might show you that we all have our moments.

First off:

I have yelled at my son. My reasons are many and varied: he’s about to touch the hot oven, he’s about to eat something he really shouldn’t be putting in his mouth, his rough and tumble play has hit me in me bits or he’s bout to throw a shoe in the general direction of his sister (he actually did this the other day). Sometimes it’s just out of exasperation. Having finally cleaned down the high chair, or having finally settled/changed the baby I find The Lad trying to build sand castles out of cat litter in the bathroom. So, I yell. I don’t do it often, I don’t do it too loudly and I never mean to, but I do. Feels good to get that off my chest.

Second off:

I am many many miles from perfect. I often ignore my own advice. It’s also worth noting that whatever The Lad’s gotten his hands on or gotten himself into it takes a special kind of adult to leave it out for him to pick up and/or throw around. That special adult is usually me…. I wish I was more organised and less absent-minded sometimes, but I am not. My sleep is usually interrupted, this might have something to do with it….

So, when it all goes down how does The Dadinator cope? Sometimes he doesn’t, but he tries his best. Sometimes he starts to talk about himself in the third person. And then he stops. Here are some of what I do and why I do it:

1.) The problem is the behaviour not the child

This comes from some of the stuff I learned while doing teaching. Saying “You’re bad” or “You’re naughty” is useless, instead focus on the behaviour not the child, and tell them what you want them to do. In a situation with a toddler they won’t necessarily understand you, but that’s not their fault. The behaviour is probably not their fault, they don’t know their head from their bums most of the time.

Sure I get sick of saying “Food is for eating, not throwing”. I get sick of saying “We don’t throw shoes”. I get sick of saying “Give me that now thank you!”. But I do it. I try to be persistent and persevere, and we get there. Well I think we do.

2.) Keep your cool

I confessed that I have yelled at The Lad over the years. It never feels good, and it never achieves anything much. In fact, when you yell at a kid, you just stress them out. Interesting when you go into a ‘stress response’ in your brain, the hippocampus (short term memory centre) shuts down. That stops the kid remembering much of what happens, and it certainly stops them from learning anything out of the situation. It’s best avoided. Although we all slip up. Kid’s also learn from the example you set more than from the words you say, so keep that in mind.

3.) Don’t talk at a child that isn’t even looking at you.

I’ve caught myself doing this. I realised that if I say “Put that down” and The Lad isn’t even looking at me. Funnily enough he doesn’t do what I ask. Take a second to get the kids attention before you tell them to do something. It saves you time and effort, plus it also ensures your message actually gets through.

4.) Get the child to help fix the situation

The Mamanator is much better at this than me… If a child throws something on the ground, get them to pick it up. If they spill water, get them to help mop it up. I sometimes just want to shortcut this process and do it myself. Even at my level of domestic ineptitude I can clean up a spilled puddle of water, or gather up sultanas faster than The Lad can at the tender age of 2. I am working on it though, and The Lad frequently impresses me with his ability to help. Sure things take a little longer, but It’s worth the wait.

5.) Don’t hold a grudge

Kids will make mistakes, test boundaries and form annoying habits. It’s their nature. It isn’t personal, don’t take it as such. Do your utmost to move on. I guarantee the little one will do so very very fast.

6.) Catch your breath

We’re trying to encourage The Lad to breath deeply when he’s worked up. We do this by holding him close and taking deep breaths, he picks up the rhythm and joins in. Sometimes I need to take some deep breaths myself before going in to talk to him about how his food doesn’t go on the floor. It is one of the most basic ways of lowering your heart rate and calming yourself down. So take the chance to do so, it does make a difference.

So, I hope there’s some help in there, as I mentioned I don’t always follow my own advice, but I do my best. I’m sure you all do to.